There are several types of individuals, or personality types, that you should avoid to protect your emotional energy and maintain good boundaries. Maintaining good boundaries is really important for your own self care. These people often irritate and antagonize your highly-tuned senses, and some of them don’t even realize they’re doing it!
If you are a highly sensitive person, you will have less stress and greater happiness if you limit your exposure to these 4 personality types.
Personality Type #1 Takers (aka “Energy Vampires”)
People with HSP often quickly empathize with others as they understand their feelings and emotions. Because you are an understanding person, you naturally empathize with others and are a friendly person to speak with. The downside is that you can become the person people go to when they want to “vent” their negative energy.
People who are energy vampires will take your energy and never give you any thing back. They will spot this great quality in you and take advantage of your empathy whenever they can. This could be a friend, a family member, a co-worker, or even a stranger. If you often feel like you are drained after speaking with someone, or often feel irritated, note how you feel and remind yourself to limit your time and exposure with that person, especially when your stress is higher or your energy level is low.
Personality Type # 2 “My Way or the Highway” People
If you’re an HSP, then you know what it’s like to have a heightened level of sensitivity to situations and you likely have many different ways to evaluate and look at a situation. You are more likely to recognize that for most things in life, there are a variety of approaches to a given situation that might lead to a desired outcome.
People who are more closed off and less open to the world typically have a narrowed lens on things. And that means they are often very focused on one way of doing things and less sensitive to others’ views. This type of approach is basically the opposite of how a highly sensitive person usually feels, so a lot of interactions with people who have a narrow or rigid view of things, will often leaving you feeling stressed.
Personality Type # 3 – People that are Always Negative
Highly sensitive people recognize multiple possibilities because their five senses are typically more open and receptive than others’ are.
People who are negative most of the time approach situations with a negative lens. And that only allows for a negative outcome. This will typically drain your energy and you will know if you often leave interactions with that person feeling drained. And a very similar situation to personality type #2 above.
Personality Type # 4 – The Judge
As I mentioned above, the term Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) refers to a specific character trait that only about 20% of the population possesses. If you are super sensitive and consider yourself an HSP after taking the HSP test, then you know that being a Highly Sensitive Person is a real thing and not just something your judgmental co worker calls you!
Being super perceptive has its ups and downs – just like any personality trait – and being around people who are always judging and criticizing others will leave you feeling negative emotions. Some people might describe it as being sad, or drained, or even angry.
Judgmental people can’t appreciate people who are different than themselves, so they will have a hard time appreciating and respecting you. If this sounds like you, then steer clear of judgmental people whenever possible.
In conclusion, if you are a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then you need to be extra protective of your boundaries. And part of protecting your boundaries includes what situations and people you expose yourself to, and allow to influence you.
Note – You can take the Highly Sensitive Person Test here.
Finally, be sure to read our Highly Sensitive Person Survival Guide